Decision-making is very hard for me

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Guess what? I'm turning 20 next yeeeeeeear!!!! Goodbye teen years! :( And with this additional number on my age, are more responsibilities I need to place over my shoulder. Decision making is a big NO to me! I suck at it because I don’t know which logic I should base my choices. Whether I'll choose this over that or that over this?

But everything changed after that service days before 2015 started.

We attended a year-end service at our local church Victory Fort, when Pastor Paolo, the head pastor of our church, asked us to write on a piece of paper the people or things which will be placed on our “Priority List.” All I need to do is think of the things which I prioritize. It’s so easy! But before the service ended, Pastor Pao asked us to rank them and believe me, I had a hard time!

Let me share my list to you.

1. GOD

I placed God first on my list because He is the ruler of my life. After the day I surrendered my life to God, all I ever wanted is to keep this relationship and make it grow deeper. All my life I never experienced such love until I met Him. I never knew how blessed I am having His love; the One who wakes me up early in the morning, walks me to school every single day, stays with me until I got home, listens to whatever I’m saying and cares for me more than anyone does. He’s on my top list because I don’t know where I’ll be without Him.

2. FAMILY

I value my family so much; I mean I can sacrifice everything just for my family! I grew up exercising a very Pinoy characteristic – close family ties. I grew up with my cousins and other relatives with our house on the same area so we often spend the after school time together and even though we’re now living in different cities and countries, we manage to see each other once in a while.

I am so blessed growing up with my supportive titas and titos who are always there on every important event in my life (I am telling you, every single event! Even random walk at the malls. Hahaha that’s how we roll!). And even spoiling us with whatever we want as long as all the cousins are together! (SHOUT OUT TO ALL MY SUPPORTIVE TITAS AND TITOS!!! We love you so much!) Mama, papa and my two sisters mean the world to me and I put them over myself!

I placed my family as my 2^nd priority because I LOVE THEM and they are one of the most important blessings from God! All I want to do with my life is to spoil them and give back everything just like how they showed me when I was little up until today!

3. ACADS

As much as I want to give everything to my family when I got my salary, of course I need to finish my studies first! Academics is on my priority list because education is a thing we should value in life. I know not everything in this world revolves around graduating and having the diploma, but you know what I realized in school, who you are at school is who you are in the real world. Students may think that we are caged at our universities or schools but actually they are training us on how we should response when we are already on our battleground or our workplace. (Yes, I only realized it when I was in college). 

4. FRIENDS

I love my friends so much and placing them on the last place of my priority list doesn’t mean that I don’t value them. All the four on my list are cut above the rest. Most of my teen years – discovering and knowing myself - were spent together with my oh-so-awesome friends. And I’m glad that even if college is taking most of my time (even time for sleep), we all remained friends!

I made this list almost a year ago, and 2015 came with all the things I need to decide on. BIG DECISIONS. But I am thankful and glad that I made this list just before all these “I need to decide” moments came!

Just a month ago, my cousin passed the board exam (yaay! Congratulations kuya!). My tita asked me to join them in surprising my cousin at his dormitory. Unfortunately, that’s a weekday and I have a problem set due the next day. I was about to say no when I got reminded of my “Priority List” that I placed my family over acads, and so I just went. And that decision I will never regret! Celebrating moments like passing the board exam happens once in a lifetime. Although academics is important as I said, there are moments in life which will come just once and we shouldn’t let these moments pass. (I finished my problem set btw haha)

Another very simple example is what we used to see on Values test papers at school when a friend asks you to be with her in a party but you have an exam the next day. What will you do? Again, all you need to do is check your priority list. Since for me I placed my acads over my friends, I will say no to my friend and choose to study first. I know that it is a simple logic-based question but think of it like a mathematics principle. It’s easy to solve simple arithmetic, like 2+3 = 5. Now if I give a more difficult problem, what you need to do is to break it down to simpler arithmetic and proceed in solving. What I mean is, if you set a solution to simple problems in your life, this solution can also be a solution of more difficult problems.

In our life, we are faced with a lot of choices every single day. We need to make decisions upon waking up. Decision whether to get up or sleep again, to drink coffee or milk, to eat breakfast or not, even to take a bath or not (hahahahhaha). Some choices are easy since they’re trivial but other choices may cause serious effect on us when we're mistaken. Decision-making is simpler with a guide – your priorities in life and when values are clear. Be reminded of

In the end, it all boils down to 2 choices and YOU ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE!

PS. Hello there reader! I challenge you to write your own priority list and share it to other people or you can share it to me! :)